I’ve been writing this article for some time, but it seems now is the right time to publish it. Some writings should serve as a reminder of how we can all do better, make better decisions, and make changes where needed.
Great friendships can turn an ordinary life into an epic one. But to create and maintain a wonderful inner circle, you need to be willing to show up and be that rock-solid friend everyone needs—real, supportive, unwavering.
So, let’s dive into these 10 power moves you can make your own to build friendships that aren’t just cool, but real and lasting.
Table of Contents
1. Mastering the Art of Subtlety in Friendship
So, you want to build friendships that last? Then, remember this. Seriously, print it out even and stick it to a bathroom mirror, or near your desk. It’s not about hogging the limelight. It’s knowing when to lead and when to let others shine. A one star-player team is often no match against a team of even mediocre status.
It also is an incredible waste of energy if everything evolves around just one person. So, create a space where everyone’s a star. It’s the most important rule in creating bonds that never break.
“A one-star-player team is often no match against a team of even mediocre status. So, create a space where everyone’s a star.”
2. Genuine Connections and Rock-Solid Integrity
Authenticity and integrity are your secret weapons. They are the two sides of a magnet that draws people in. Your words, your promises—make them mean something, make them build trust and respect.
More important even than honesty, be reliable too. Consistency is key. You want to be the same person in every situation, the friend who’s as real as it gets.
3. Power Communication: Respectful and Supportive
How do you talk about and to others? In case you’re not aware of it, that’s your signature.
Would you trust people who always share the latest dirt on others behind their backs? Probably not, right? They’d do the same about you.
Cut the gossip, the cheap shots, the sarcasm. Be the powerhouse who elevates others, not the one scrambling for the last word.
When you open your mouth with your crew, you better do more than just talk. You want to be an enriching and empowering factor. From now onward, decide and turn every conversation into a win for all.
4. The Gold Standard of Honest Feedback
Honest feedback from your crew? That stuff is pure gold. Grab it, treasure it. It’s them showing they are all in on your path to greatness. That’s as real as it gets.
Your inner circle isn’t your personal fan club; it’s your board of advisors. They’re there to challenge, push, and catapult you to new heights.
When it’s your turn, do your part. It’s a cycle of growth, with gentle honesty as the catalyst. Doing this can transform anything ordinary into extraordinary.
“Honest feedback from your crew? That stuff is pure gold. Grab it, treasure it. It’s them showing they are all in on your path to greatness.”
5. Next-Level Engagement and Unbreakable Bonds
Friendship is more than digital thumbs-ups or texts. It’s diving into the arena, being an integral part of each other’s lives.
Be there, really there—listen, support, and when it’s time, dish out real talk, not just drone on about yourself.
Jump in, and help out without being asked. Make their wins your wins. Be not just friends; be allies.
Be the first person they think of in good times and bad because they know you’re more than just a friend; you’re a lifeline. Don’t ever disappoint them.
6. Humility Over Showmanship
Do you really want to help? Do so where it truly matters, not where it gets likes, praise, or eyeballs.
Real generosity is low-key but high-impact. No strings attached, just pure, humble, caring vibes, and knowing when to put others first.
This kind of humility is rare but sets true friends apart from a run-of-the-mill emotional support group.
7. No Room for Emotional Games and Drama
Keep it real. Healthy friendships are built on respect, trust, and understanding—not mind games, drama, or picking favorites. Keep those vibes clean and genuine.
Adopt a no-nonsense policy when it comes to the emotional health of your circle. It’s crucial for their well-being and for yours.
“Keep it real. Healthy friendships are built on respect, trust, and understanding—not mind games, drama, or picking favorites.”
8. Solid as a Rock in Tough Times
Be the kind of friend who will be there, not just for the highs and the camera moments, but for the lows as well. Balance your life, but keep your crew close, especially when new chapters in your life kick off.
Your presence should remind your inner circle that no matter what happens, they’re not alone. Mutual reliability holds friendships together through thick and thin. So, show up, be present, and when the roles reverse, you’ll see them step up for you in return.
9. Championing Optimism
Ignite that spark of positivity in your squad. Elevate the mood. Make the vibe contagious. I don’t mean clowning around, even though a good laugh is important as well. I mean, genuinely injecting some hope, positivity, and bright yet realistic ideas.
This doesn’t just make you a great friend; it makes you a force of nature. Positivity and forward-thinking bring opportunity and will benefit the whole group.
Downers only bring you down. Lift your friends’ spirits instead.
10. Crafting Your Dream Team
Creating your dream team starts with stepping out. Hit up places and events, where you’ll find your kind of people. Be open, but picky. Look for those who share your values, match your vibe, and bring out the best in you.
Be the talent scout for your own life. Look for the best of the best—people who inspire you, are honest with you, want what is best for you, challenge you, and make you laugh.
You’re not collecting acquaintances; you’re curating a team of superstars! Each person brings something unique to the table.
I’m rooting for you. We’re on the same team, and together, we’re unstoppable!
“In the complexities of life, ‘Friends are the compass that guides us to new adventures, the anchor in our storm, and the stars that brighten our darkest nights.’ Now, go out there and be that friend.”Chris Fox
Make your mark in your friendships now. Every move you make towards being a better friend turns up the quality of your life and of those around you. Set the bar high with positivity and real connections.
Apply these rules, and watch your friendships level up in trust and depth. Lead the way in your circle with integrity and heart. Your vibe, your influence—it’s game-changing.
Transform your social world, one epic friendship at a time. Make it legendary.
Source: Originally published at https://chrisfox.com/building-strong-friendships-rules/ on January 25th, 2024.